I have chatted about what Colorado Boudoir is, but not a lot about what it’s not. At least from my perspective & experiences.
Colorado Boudoir can be liberating, fun, life changing, exhilarating, important…. when it is set up for success. It can also be terrifying, boring, scary, harmful, lame – having nothing to do with the photographer. Boudoir photography is going to be what you set it up for and when you meet me, or whomever your photographer is, at least half way….MAGIC can happen.
Boudoir is not… the quick fix
I can’t and wont tell you that having a Colorado Boudoir experience is going to for sure fix/change how you feel about yourself. I will tell you that it’s a good first or final step towards self acceptance. I would be lying and doing you a HUGE disservice if I made you believe that simply having boudoir photos done will be the one stop shop to a better mindset & relationship with your body. I 100% believe it can help & having realistic expectations is key! If you are wanting/expecting me to make you look like a completely different human we are set up for failure. I want to create & capture images of YOU. Show you that how you appear and take up space in this life is worthy!
Boudoir is not…for someone else
After working with 100’s of women, I have noticed a direct correlation between those who didn’t have the same experience to those who were solely doing it for someone else. Remember earlier when I said I would need you to meet me half way? Well, just like having realistic expectations, it really helps if you’re doing this for yourself first. Of course boudoir makes for a unique & intimate gift for your partner, but if you are only doing it for them it probably won’t be the same. Your headspace, willingness to choose & be positive is meeting me halfway, setting you up to get the most from your Colorado Boudoir experience. If that headspace is for someone else, then you aren’t totally present to enjoy it.
Boudoir is not…always about sex
“oh, so you take sexy pictures!” Anyone saying that to me can probably hear my eyes roll. Women are inherently sexualized, so of course some people tie boudoir to sex. Sure, sometimes it’s about sexuality, but most of the time it has nothing to do with it. My clients come to me with all kinds of reasons + inspirations for doing boudoir, from simple to heavy. Whatever their reason, it’s therapeutic to them and I would hope by now, that we understand that different things liberate women. Also, women owe ZERO explanation for what liberates them. Little reminder, there is SO shame in being sexual & someone over sexualizing something speaks more about them, than you. A Colorado Boudoir experience with me will be whatever you want it to be , whatever liberates you. I think it’s important to understand that boudoir doesn’t have to be about sex, everyones comfort level and boundaries are different, I see + respect that.
In summary…
Colorado boudoir can be many different things but I believe it’s important to set the stage properly. I would not be doing my job to the fullest if I didn’t help set, manage, and then met your expectations. I would be so honored to chat more about yours, consultations are always free, you just gotta make the first move here.
